Submission in marriage

Over the years, my wife and I have had the blessing and joy of walking alongside a number of engaged couples as they prepare for marriage. One of the recurring discussions has been around the topic of submission. It seems that in our day and age, there is increasing confusion and suspicion surround this all-too-clear biblical mandate (see Ephesians 5:22).

Some resources that I think are helpful in understanding how biblical submission could work in our day:

  • the appendix in Tim & Kathy Keller’s book, “The Meaning of Marriage”. Short and succinct presentation. Also, one of the best books written on marriage and the Gospel.
  • this blogpost by Paul Tautges (don’t know who he is).
  • there’s also a booklet he mentions in the post, but I haven’t read it.
  • “Who Does the Dishes?” – a short booklet by the Christian Counseling Education Foundation by Winston Smith.

I’d love to hear some of your thoughts on headship and submission. Is it just an old-fashioned, mysogynistic, relic of male-dominated society? Or is there something beautiful to be found in the idea that equal in essence does not mean equal in function? Leave a comment.